You're Deflecting Dummy

Too often people are quick to give their opinion on someone else and the life they're leading. Meanwhile, they can barely look at themselves in the mirror. It's easy to critique others when you spend your days ducking and dodging everything that's wrong in your own life. It's called deflecting and you're doing it dummy. 

And you're not alone, everyone has caught themselves up in the lives of other people at some point. Whether it's critiquing someone's appearance, spreading negative information about them, or making assumptions on who they are, we've all done it at some point. Some people just make a habit of it, and those are the people I'm addressing right now. 

Do you get paid to give your opinion? Does speaking down on other people get you laid? Does spitting on someone else name, make you feel empowered? Because if it does, continue about your day and toot-a-loo my love. However, if it doesn't check even one of those boxes... what're you doing it for? 

I've come to find that people who comment on other's appearance often, are insecure with their own. Even if they know they're attractive, they still critique everything about themselves and the way they present themselves to the world. 

They have so much to say about someone else because they've noticed the same things before when they were altering themselves, so they could present their idea of the perfect person to you. 

These people are insecure, and the flaws they point out is like a checklist of all the things they made sure to hide about themselves, from the public. 

And usually they have nothing better to talk about, just bored chile. 

If you're reading this and feeling offended then talk to your spirit guides, not me, because they should be helping you find something better to do. 

Now the people who hear a bit of tea about you and jump to spreading it... Those are the fans. These are the people that it's easy to have mixed feelings about, because you can't help that you're so important to them. Your life is one of their favorite shows and they wanna play a part in it so badly. But unfortunately you are not currently casting and they need to find a new career path. 

These people generally just have nothing going on in their lives, or whatever is going on in their life, they're trying to avoid talking about. And that's also why this is the most common way of deflecting. 

You mix boredom with a desire to escape reality and that's what you get.

We've all gone through something we didn't want to talk about, even if it was the main thing on our mind. So the first thing we do think to say is something we've heard about someone else. Whether that be a celebrity, a coworker or someone we fell out with, when you don't want to talk about how your own shit is stinking, you point out someone else's. But how about you wipe your own ass first? 

And the people who spend their time making assumptions about others, well they're just scared of their own demons. These are the people that decide who someone is without knowing much about them or their situation. Usually, it's because that's what they would do or how they would act if they were in that person's position.

Those assumptions come from the shadow side of who that person is. I remember my mom said to me once, "People don't usually accuse people of things they wouldn't do."  And she might tell me a joke, but she'd never tell me a lie. 

If you feel offended by anything I've said, please, take a moment to be offended but then ask yourself why you're offended in the first place? You're probably deflecting again. 

I'm guilty of some of the same things, so I know because I've been through it and I want better for you. Our world builds off of frequencies and that's extremely low vibration behavior. Even if it's not you acting that way, surrounding yourself with people who do will have the same effect. 

Have you ever found yourself very anxious about the way you looked or were extremely careful about what you said because of someone you were going to be around? Was the person you were with someone  who spent most of their time talking about other people? If so, that anxiety you were feeling was your spirit trying to protect itself. 

But our spirits don't thrive in a state of defense. And there's no reason you should be wrecking your own mind because you don't want to be the next subject of their commentary. 

People are allowed to be people. They're allowed to have flaws and not give a fuck. They shouldn't be worried about how society is going to treat them or speak on them because they come as they are. 

Stop deflecting dummy. 

Let the world love you.